3. Become more emotionally attractive. Be
cheerful--don't think of the inconvenience involved in following dating rituals. Think of
how making small efforts will help endear you to the other person. Express positive
sentiments. A trip to your local Hallmark card shop is one of the best investments you can
make for your love portfolio.
4. Pay attention to the person you want. It's just a fact that frequent contact works far
better than the dishonest "playing hard to get" approach. Let the other person
know you are interested. Show enthusiasm. Guys, don't be cheap with the flowers. A big
bouquet sent to her at the office tells her you think she is important and attractive.
Don't wait for a special occasion--the occasion is that she is special.
5. Show respect for the other person's space and time. It's good to
call and say, "I was just thinking about you, and I wanted to let you know." End
the conversation with, "I'm buried in a million things to do, but it was important to
stop everything and hear your voice." Be alert to whether this person needs quiet
time, working out time, or has some other commitment that might go better without you
6. Really listen to the other person, and look for things you have
in common. Find out what is important to the other person, and act accordingly.
7. Don't talk about past loves or yourself. If asked about yourself
or past loves, answer honestly--but keep it short. Get the conversation back on track, and
into the present. Don't talk about plans far into the future, either.
8. Don't make every date a lavish affair. To get close to one
another, you need some mundane experiences together. Shopping, home repair projects,
cooking together, and simply going for a walk are all ways to bond better. Pick a way that
is suitable for both of you.
9. When your relationship includes sexual activities, take time to
make love to your partner's entire body, not just the genitalia. Begin the love-making
process well ahead of time, by showing affection and respect "out of the sack."
10. Follow any intimate encounter with a personal note, card, phone
call, or small gift to show you still care for this person. When people are intimate, they
are exposed. Let the other person know you like what he or she shared with you. Keep the
tone in line with the other person's expectations--if in doubt, keep it conservative. An
explicit or crude expression of sentiment could have the opposite effect of what you
intend--and make the other person feel like a slab of meat in your eyes. Aim for something
classy in what you say. Here are some thoughts that go over well:
"You make me feel like a natural woman."
"You left me trembling and breathless last night. I want you even more than I did
"Thank you for yesterday's taste of heaven. I want to see you again. And again. And