Do you want to make your child bully-proof and nearly abduction-proof? What
Back in the 1980s, I taught some girls how to be bully-proof. For "I didn't start it" reasons, I always taught them to let the other kid throw the first punch. Then respond quickly and brutally.
A third-grade girl whom I had trained for several months was attacked after school by four fifth grade boys. She broke the collar bone of the main bully (would be rapist?) and that ended the fight. She could just as easily have dislocated his kneecap, torn off an ear, or broken a finger. We had drilled on these and other techniques. She just happened to choose the collar bone of the ring leader--the target presented itself and she struck.
The parents of "collar bone boy" raised a ruckus and threatened to sue. The girl's mother said, "That'll get published in the paper. Do you really want to make everyone aware that your fifth grade boy could not defend himself against a third grade girl? Even with his buddies helping him? Hasn't he been humiliated enough already?" No legal action was taken.
A seventh grader moved to a new area and thus a new school. She was smart and the teachers liked her. She was pretty and the boys gave her a lot of attention. A gang of other girls resented this successful newcomer and decided to gang up on her on the way home from school.
They pulled her hair, hit her, and spit all over her. She had a couple of massive bruises on her back by the time she got home. Her mother brought the spit-drenched, bruised girl in her torn clothes right back to the school and into the principal's office. Rather than doing anything useful, the principal said she couldn't do anything about fights off the school property.
This was not a smart decision, because this girl was my student.
Her mother said, "I suggest you reconsider, because if this happens again my daughter won't just stand there and take it like she did this time. Trust me, it won't be pretty."
The next day after school, the same gang surrounded this girl again. This time she went into full assault mode, immediately taking out six bullies. This caused the others to lose their "courage" and flee. Those gang girls got an education about bullying. It was an education their school and parents had failed to provide them by less painful means.
And guess what? Nobody at that school bothered that girl ever again. In fact, all bullying--which had been rampant--abruptly ceased. Just like that. The school's "intractable" bullying problem was solved in a single afternoon by one girl who unleashed a big can of industrial-strength whupass. While it did cause (a lot of) pain for the bullies, it made many students at that school much better human beings by causing the entire school to stop a toxic behavior pattern.
When an innocent person is confronted by a much larger and stronger attacker, or group of attackers, the safest option is a quick, violent response. It ends the fight quickly, with the innocent person left unharmed. This is why, for example, if you pose a threat to a police officer you are likely to get shot; this stops your attack and protects the officer. So the principle isn't my idea, it's a fundamental principle of self-defense.
I don't have a video for you to watch so you can see the techniques (that I taught the girls) demonstrated. But there is no mystery here. All you have to do is "play act" with a partner for a few one-hour sessions each week and keep this up for several months before tapering off to a few times a month just to stay sharp. Put your mind to it.
Practice in "soft motion" and visualize while you do. Practice execution from different positions, and from different angles to the attacker. Also work on balance. How do you keep your feet under you and stay reasonably stable? Once you get the techniques down, try to practice them while moving or while slightly off balance.
The idea is to learn the movements by practicing them, but safely. You don't actually strike hard. You want to watch the lines of force in your mind; this will help you learn where and how to strike.
For the kneecap, for example, you can use the heel of your palm to strike sideways against the kneecap. Moderate force there, and the attacker can no longer stand on that leg. Imagine how this changes a child abduction scenario. A low kick works especially well for this; if you drill so that you can deliver it without looking down you will have an amazing ability to stop almost anybody.
Remember, a kick to the shin hurts but a kick to the kneecap disables. Always disable rather than hurt. Attack the attacker's weapons or ability to use them.
The collar bone break is a hammer blow down at about a 45 degree angle. Nobody expects a blow to hit there, they think you are trying to punch them in the nose.
Don't hit someone else in the face; all that bone (way more than in a collarbone) can hurt your hand. Other targets are easier to hit and more productive when you do. The face isn't a weapon, so hitting it is pointless. Hitting the back of the hand really hard is entirely a different story.
What about tearing off the ear? The ear is large enough that you can grip it with sufficient force to really hold on to it. Practice grabbing an ear (gently) to see how this works. If you grab the attacker's ear very hard and simply throw your feet out from under you (sit down); your weight will either tear the ear cartilage (and likely tear the ear off the attacker's head) or cause severe neck injury. Either way, fight's over.
Speaking of neck injury, my favorite fight-stopper is a punch to the side of the neck. Nobody expects this and an attacker who's facing you doesn't see it coming because you change your body position to deliver it. A very dynamic movement. It can be delivered only with the proper body positioning (footwork). It's totally devastating to the opponent, but it requires a grace and precision that does not come easily. When I taught this, I taught it to my black belt students only.
How do you break a finger? Simple. Grab it and quickly snap it backwards. Or snap it hard to the side. A child can use two hands for this on an adult, if need be. Grab one finger with one hand and the one next to it with the other. Then pull apart hard or push the hands across each other (and use your body weight in the push). Those fingers easily snap.
Figure out with your kid how to do this, and nobody will ever snatch and grab your kid. You can't hold a child or a weapon if your fingers are broken. The drill is you grab the kid, putting your fingers in the kid's range. Then the kid simply slow-executes the move without really hurting you. You can also drill by having your kid execute quickly on a make-believe finger.
Practice by grabbing the kid's hair from in back. The kid should respond by pushing back toward whoever grabbed the hair while reaching up to grab the attacker's hand and quickly feeling for a finger to break. The natural response is to try to pull away, and it doesn't work. Move backwards into your attacker while executing the counter attack. Drill on this response, until it becomes the new natural response.
In most cases, the attacker controls you by depending upon you to try to pull away. But if you move toward and into the attacker (practice turning into the attacker, also) you considerably reduce the attacker's control while putting your own weapons close to vulnerable targets. Stomping on the instep, kicking the knee, driving two fingers into the solar plexus, or bending down to grip and twist the kneecap all can end the attack. Especially if two or three of these are executed in rapid succession.
I realize these kinds of techniques are brutal and merciless. But if you practice them and make them second-nature, you need fear no man. Even if you're just a little kid.
Here we go again, the annual ritual of ("will fail") New Year's resolutions
to "lose weight."
Why go through this every year, when there's a permanent solution? Just have your legs amputated and you'll lose weight. What, don't like that idea?
Could it be that people mean do not mean "lose weight" at all? Could it mean they want to change their body composition so they don't look so fat anymore?
Yeah, buddy. Diet down and get back into those 38-inch waist pants.
What if I showed you a permanent solution that will get you guys into 32-inch waist pants (and women similarly lean)? Those pants would be a couple of inches too roomy on me, but for most men a 32-inch waist would be a realistic goal.
There are all kinds of diets being floated around. Do you cut carbs? Reduce fat? Eat carrot sticks and celery only? Buy expensive meal replacements?
No to all of those!
Let's talk about carbs, first. Rule number one is do not worry about getting too many carbs. For the most part, it's not how many carbs you get but what kind of carbs.
Some carbs are endocrine modifiers, and they greatly distort the traditional carb math. Traditionally, the story goes that if you eat 3500 calories beyond your personal limit, you gain a pound of fat.
The reality is quite different:
And it doesn't matter what your "personal limit" is; even if your limit is somehow calculated at 2200 calories and you consume only 1800 but 200 are endocrine modifiers you will see a net gain of fat (you'll experience a loss of muscle, too).
That's because so much is driven by your hormones. Foods hugely affect your hormonal environment.
Rather than starve yourself and count calories, just eat reasonable portions (e.g., don't stuff yourself) of quality carbs. What are these? Fruits, vegetables, and some grains (rice, quinoa, millet, etc.). Nothing processed!
Top photo taken 16SEP2016, just days before 56th birthday; bottom photo taken 3 days after 56th birthday
Traditionalists say eating broccoli is good for the waistline because it is
low in calories. But it is good for the waistline primarily because it helps
stimulate testosterone production. You still need carbs for energy.|
The right carbs are good for fat loss because they promote the right hormonal environment. They are also good for fat loss because they provide fuel for training. If you train hard, you get a fat-burning boost that lasts for days after the training session.
So forget New Year's resolutions to "lose weight". That goal is vague (lose how much?) and it aims at the wrong target.
It's not the weight you want to lose, but the fat. Which 160lb guy do you think looks better with his shirt off after losing 30 lbs:
Or what about Charlie, who started the year at 160lbs because last year he adopted a lifestyle of making smart food choices. Six months later, he still weighs 160lbs, but he's changed the mix by gaining 5lbs of muscle and losing 5lbs of fat.
Note that the carb-restrictive diets have these disadvantages:
And the advantages of a healthy-carb diet are the exact opposites of the disadvantages of the carb-restriction diets. I think the great taste alone is reason enough to go with healthy carbs, but looking and feeling great are also compelling reasons. A small bowl of berries or an apricot is a great way to get carbs.
When they're in season, I eat peaches every day. I also eat sweet potatoes every day, unless I am taking a break from those to eat purple potatoes or some other kind of exotic potato. I love those carbs and they are very, very good to me!
Note that many "carb" foods are high in B vitamins, iron, and other nutrients that make the difference between being anemic and being energetic. Eat a variety of carbs!
Next, let's talk about fats. It's pretty much the same set of arguments. So don't go on a low-fat, fat-free, or other "fat is bad" diet unless you want to be fat, have an adverse hormonal environment, and have poor musculature. You need fat to burn fat, and you need fat for many other positive purposes.
Saturated fat isn't "bad" and you actually need it for optimum health. It is high in calories, so use fats to enhance dishes you prepare rather than just chug down the fat. For example, eating a 4-egg omelet where (organic) butter was used in the pan is a good way to get saturated fats (from the egg and the butter), and it tastes great. Fold the omelet over with wilted spinach and kale, and now you have a super-meal.
The typical avocado has over 3 grams of saturated fat! If this stuff clogged your arteries, bodybuilders would be dropping like flies from heart attacks instead of having incredibly robust cardiovascular systems.
I suppose if money were no object you could sit down and eat a dozen avocados a day and start having health problems from doing that. But using avocados as an ingredient in meal-making (e.g., dicing up half of one onto a raw veggie mix) is an entirely different consumption level.
If you prepare meals with the idea that doing so is an art form, you're going to put foods together in sensible ways. The fats complement the other foods, and it all works well together. Same thing with carbs. In this mode, it's impossible to get too many carbs or too much fat. Just make sure the ones you do get are worthy of being included in your meals. Your waistline will show whether you got this right.
www.supplecity.com, you'll find plenty of informative, authoritative
articles on maintaining a lean, strong physique. It has nothing to
do with long workouts or impossible to maintain diets. In fact:|
|Your teeth start growing 6 months before you are born. On the typical American diet, the environment for tooth decay and gum disease grows right along with those teeth. Don't eat processed grains, and don't feed them to your kids or pets.|
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