Mindconnection eNL, 2002-12-26
In this issue:
For most of us, Christmas is a hectic time. But then suddenly, it's quiet. To some folks, this is a let-down. To others, it's a relief. Most of the world's people don't even celebrate Christmas.
For everyone, this post-Christmas period can be a time of opportunity. Think about the whole Christmas experience. What was most rewarding about it--special time with friends and family, perhaps? What about it was least enjoyable? Standing in long lines to buy stuff other people don't want and the standing in long lines to return stuff you don't want, perhaps? Think of what you can do to have more of what you like and less of what you don't like.
If the whole thing always is tough for you, consider declaring a "Christmas Fast" for 2003 and just don't do it. Remember, this is not a Christian holiday. In fact, the concept of a Christian holiday is an oxymoron according the the Apostle Paul (Galatians 4:10). So, enjoy Christmas for what it offers--or don't do it. If you have a "Christmas obligation" because of kids (for example), then start right now planning for ways to make next Christmas something you and those around you will enjoy. You have 12 months--don't waste them.
Don't wait until Christmas to show or tell people you love them. If you do it all year, it actually has meaning at Christmas or whenever you do it. If you celebrate Christmas, be sensitive to friends who purposely do not celebrate it for religious reasons or who celebrate some other festival or a religious practice near the same time of year.
If you're curious about how Christmas came about and how it came to be as it is today, here are some resources:
2. Planning for 2003
What is in store for the new year?
For most of us, it'll be the same old thing: broken promises to:
You don't have to play that game. You have other options. Rather than set a lofty goal, just list 12 specific things you want to do next year. Assign one to each month or some other period. Here are some examples:
If planning isn't your forté, just keep it simple. Make a short list and just do one item at a time from it. If you have problems starting or completing a task, take our Solving Procrastination Course, developed by a license psychologist.
3. Brainpower tip
When you are really stuck on a problem or can't remember something, don't fall into the trap of sitting there stewing on it until the answer hits you. It probably won't hit you.
What should you do, instead? Take a walk. Read a magazine article. Call a friend. Go play with your dog or the neighbor's. Mow the lawn, or exercise, or.... Do you see the pattern, here? When the gears seem to be slipping in your brain, go do something else. This works for several reasons we can explain and for some we probably can't. Basically, each area of your brain can do only so much work without a need for rest.
Mindconnection has a problem-solving course in PDF. I have presented this in various venues, and will be presenting it again this spring for an audience of about 350. The course is inexpensive, but will teach you things that people wish they had learned at that $799 problem-solving seminar they went to (funny, the last seminar I presented this at cost only $499--how can these other folks charge so much more and deliver so much less?). The author of this course solved a $3 million/year problem at a nuclear power plant. Other people had tried to solve it for 15 years. The author solved it the first day he was on it. Don't you want that kind of problem-solving power? You can have it. Trust me, I know. I am the author.
4. Finance tip
For more than 80% of us, our biggest expense--more than food, clothing and shelter combined--is taxes. Payroll taxes alone cut your paycheck by more than half (the SS tax is paid 100% by you, even if your employer "pays it" for you--there is so much money per job and that is it).
President Bush is rolling out some federal income tax cuts, but the federal income tax will still remain outrageously high and you still have all your other taxes to pay. How can you reduce these expenditures? Each of us needs to look for ways. Write to legislators, vote against those who approve stupid spending (most government spending is stupid), and vote against any tax increase for any reason. That last concept is important. Most tax issues that make it on the ballot are pure extortion. Why is it you are always voting on whether to provide more funding for schools or roads, but you don't get to vote on big salaries for useless government positions? Let your legislator know you want the government to cut back on "services," because you are getting "serviced" way too expensively. Tell your legislators to earn their salaries and make the same tough decisions you must make every day. They need to stop acting like they work on street corners and start acting responsibly with your money.
Meanwhile, you need to cope with the existing laws. Contribute to charity within the next few days, so you get the deduction on this year's taxes. Buy a tax book before the year's end, and deduct the cost when you next file your personal income tax.
5. Health tips
If you buy anything plastic, air it out. The typical computer monitor has to burn about 1,000 hours before it cooks away the toxic gases contained in its shell. The new car smell is largely toxic gases--your farts are actually safer, but I am willing to bet your friends prefer the smell of the new car. Unless your friends are really weird. Then, the plastic may be the least of your worries....
What are some tips to help you cope with this toxicity problem (I mean, from the plastic)?
Here are some books on indoor air quality and indoor air pollution:
6. Fitness tips
Check your shoulder alignment. Most people round their shoulders by hunching forward. This is especially true with today's human-hostile furniture. That Herman Miller Aeron chair that won all those awards is creating a whole army of people with back and leg problems. Critical thinking was absent both in the design of that chair and in the awards process. Not to rail too much about that particular chair, but I have spoken to the folks at Herman Miller (very nice folks) about this chair and the stupidity of a hammock suspension that requires a hard metal bar under your hamstrings and a C-posture if you work at a computer. They seemed concerned, but I have no clue what they are doing about this defective product. I just hope the folks who bought it without thinking aren't able to sue the company. OK, time to move on. Just remember that how you sit in a chair has a lot to do with your posture.
To ensure good shoulder alignment, pull your shoulders back, where they belong, so your shoulder blades are on the same plane of reference rather than at angles to each other. This automatically strengthens your entire torso, improves circulation to the brain, improves respiratory capacity, and improves the mechanical stability of the shoulder. Cosmetically, this is an excellent practice because it raises the chest up to a prominent position. If you keep your shoulders in proper alignment, you will look, feel, and be at a higher level of fitness.
By the way, shoulder pads in clothing are just plain silly. Why not have nice shoulders, instead? Here are some resources for you:
Men's Health publishes a shoulders book. However, I have ordered several of their books and found each one to be so erroneous that I sent it back for a refund. I used to subscribe to their magazine, too, until I found too many errors of fact. I won't subject you to that, here.
Most men do bench presses and arm curls, and call that working out. They end up with an unbalanced shoulder structure and not nearly the usable strength improvement they are capable of obtaining. Those books listed above should be required reading for those folks.
7. Timesaving tip
Here's a free tip from our time management course:
In addition to saving you time, following this tip will make the other person feel appreciated and valued by you, plus it will help you project an image of strength and purpose rather than one of weakness.
8. Thought for the Day
We are the sum of our thoughts. What are you doing to help yourself have better thoughts? What inputs are you providing to your brain? What kinds of thoughts help you achieve what is important to you, and what kinds of thoughts detract from that? Are you having enough real thoughts? What can you do to stimulate better thoughts?
Just thought you might want to think about this.
Wishing you the best,
AuthorshipThe views expressed in this e-newsletter are generally not shared by criminals, zombies, or brainwashed individuals.
Except where noted, this e-newsletter is entirely the work of Mark Lamendola. Anything presented as fact can be independently verified. Often, sources are given; but where not given, they are readily available to anyone who makes the effort.
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