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Time Tips: Collective Monologues

In another article, I mentioned collective monologues. These are a complete waste of time. Two people, each convinced the other is an idiot, will carry on at each other in such a way as to make it impossible for an outside observer to tell who the idiot really is (see the Congressional hearings on C-Span for an example of this).

When you're in a collective monologue, end the conversation abruptly. You can change topics, simply "give in," or say you have to go. But, don't continue--you will only irritate the other person while wasting your own time and probably raising your own blood pressure.

Here are some signs of a collective monologue.

  • You find yourself arguing.
  • You find you are not listening, but thinking of what to say next.
  • You and the other person are trading insults, rather than information.
  • You don't feel a need to understand the other person.
  • One (or both) of you is frequently interrupting the other.
  • One (or both) of you raises his/her voice.
  • One (or both) of you uses fallacious reasoning.

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