Tone down your chattiness. If you are talking too much, nobody is listening to you. Learn how to overcome the cause of this, so you can truly be heard and understood. This self-paced course requires no textbook or instructor.
When you just can't seem to shut up, something is wrong. Very wrong. The good news is it doesn't have to stay that way.While filling any silence with the sound of your own voice may feel like it's sparing you pain, it's actually doing the opposite. It's turning a vague feeling of uneasiness, discomfort, or insecurity into an actual problem.
Similar behaviors include:
Not pausing during a conversation.
Not letting others get a word in edgewise.
Putting out a torrent of words, when really a sentence or two will do.
Such behaviors--all part of talkativity--create more of the very problems that caused you to be overly talkative in the first place.
Repeating yourself during a conversation, just to have something say, is another symptom that may occur in a person afflicted with talkativity. Some people will repeat part of a particular conversation, others have a phrase such as "you know" or "I don't know" that they use. When you are talking with someone, do you catch yourself doing this? Does the other person catch you doing this?
So, there are many possible forms of manifestation. The key is if you're talking far more than other people are, you have a problem. And that problem is talkativity.
Have you noticed that, when you occasionally stay silent (for example, when attending a lecture given by someone else)", you feel awkward or uncomfortable? Perhaps you even flush hot and begin to expire, while your heart races. Those are signs of stress. And you have that stress because of subconscious expectations that produce a self-fulfilling prophecy of negative consequences--such as fear, uncertainty, and doubt. You have adapted to this by relying on maladaptive behavior.
This condition of relying on this particular maladaptive behavior has a name. It's called "talkativity." And it never makes your life better. It can make your life much less pleasant.
While this maladaptive behavior seems to work as a coping mechanism, it only gives the appearance of doing so. It is actually working against your best interests. The paradox here is the more you engage in talkativity to cope with your issues, the worse those issues become.
The tragic thing is that many times the issues a talkativity-inflicted person is coping with are more perceived than real. The coping behavior changes the perception to reality, thereby completely backfiring. This creates real issues to cope with, and the more you cope through talkativity, the worse the situation gets. You wind up in a vicious cycle, and the only way out is to change the coping behavior.
Sadly, people suffering from this condition are convinced that they are successfully managing things when the opposite is actually true. The compulsively talkative person isn't avoiding or fixing problems, but is instead letting those problems gather strength and be far more difficult to handle.
But it's not just the outward manifestations of this particular issue that cause problems for you. Because the physical manifestation arises from an inner emotional problem, your compulsion exerts itself in subtle (and not so subtle) ways in your relationships. This undermines marriages, friendships, and careers in a multitude of ways. None of which you would suffer, if you overcame this compulsion.
Yet, you keep doing it. Why? This course will show you how to discover the answer. Your compulsion is a response, and if you understand how to uncover what's driving that response you can cure the compulsion.
Chatterbox problems? We can help you overcome those. Permanently.
Estimated completion time for the Behavior: Toning Down Chattiness course: 15 one-hour sessions.
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You need to overcome the consequences of this self-defeating behavior. This Behavior: Toning Down Chattiness will help you do exactly that.
What sort of consequences are we talking about? They may include:
People don't like you. If you feel isolated or disrespected, your self-defeating behavior is probably why--and you can change that.
You don't like yourself, because of your self-defeating behavior.
Your defense mechanism is to engage in your self-defeating behavior. This sets up a self-sustaining vicious cycle, in which you are currently trapped (this course teaches you how to use an appropriate response and break the cycle).
The dynamic of many relationships with others is that of a contest rather than one of cooperation. This means others fight you, one way or another.
Your response of your self-defeating behavior merely fuels this, creating a self-sustaining vicious cycle.
People often avoid any real discussion with you (on specific topics that trigger your self-defeating behavior), because they already know how it will go.
Others may give in to avoid triggering your self-defeating behavior, but later they find ways to disagree silently and/or undermine you (the are exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior, which is self-defeating for them).
You may have the appearance of "winning" or getting your way, but you actually lose it in terms of eventual outcome.
People who interact with you feel almost obligated to work against you. And they may not even realize it consciously. Your self-defeating behavior has tapped a primal self-defense mechanism in them.
Folks who could volunteer to help you, don't.
Your self-defeating behavior turns them off or you send involuntarily negative signals because you are relying on your ineffective self-defeating behavior instead of using effective coping skills. This course will show you how to use those skills.
How It Works
This Behavior: Toning Down Chattiness course follows the same protocol used in short-term professional psychotherapy. The notable exception is this course is self-treatment. Whereas you could expect 4 or 5 one-hour sessions with a psychotherapist, the self-treatment approach will require more self-initiative. But you won't be paying $200 per hour for five hours this way, either.
As with any form of psychotherapy, your journey along the healing path may not end with this course. However, note these two facts about this kind of treatment:
The success rate is very high for people who make an honest effort to work through the therapy.
The therapy lays the groundwork for a stronger method of treatment, if needed.
This Behavior: Toning Down Chattiness course is one of a series developed by Dr. Jay Prince, licensed psychotherapist. Dr. Prince passed away in 2001. A rapid cancer claimed him well before old age. During his lifetime, Dr. Prince treated many patients who needed to overcome a problem through psychotherapy. Dr. Prince also had several corporate clients, who came to him for solving dysfunctional situations within their companies.
Dr. Prince changed the lives of many of our customers, giving them new direction and new hope. In his private practice, Dr. Prince helped individuals overcome problems that kept them from leading the fulfilling lives they deserved. He also consulted to corporations, helping them to develop more humane, rewarding, and productive workplaces.
Working with Dr. Prince was a pleasure, knowing him was an honor. He wanted his courses priced so the average person could easily buy one and begin the journey to recovery.
The series of behavior courses is licensed exclusively to Mindconnection, LLC. His portion of the proceeds now go to his widow and children.
Going this route--the self-treatment via Dr. Prince's course--will save you money for three reasons:
You pay a one-time fee for the Behavior: Toning Down Chattiness course, rather than $200 an hour for 4 to 6 hours
If this therapy solves your problem, that's your total cost.
If short-term therapy can't solve your problem, you have determined that without spending several hundred dollars..
I really had a chattiness problem, and just could not help myself. It cost me three marriages, several jobs, and countless friendships. This course helped me find better ways to cope with my unmet needs, ways that don't feed the original problem and that aren't self-destructive. Thanks to this course, I am no longer my own worst enemy.
Unexpected Rewards--Great!, 10.21.2008
Reviewer: John Wright (USA, )
The series is excellent at revealing subtleties of interaction which are otherwise ignored. Something as simple as reflecting on the "Daily Checklist" allowed me to observe myself and others and see how little we actually listen. This course provided motivation and rewards I never expected. It's difficult to overcome talkativity, and I know of no other source that offers the same quality I found here.