Do you feel unable to speak up for yourself? Introduce yourself to others? Take bold steps forward? Do you find yourself unable to think of what to say in a social or business setting? Shyness is holding you back. We will guide you through the process of breaking those chains of shyness and unleashing your ability to fully participate in life by overcoming your shyness This self-paced course requires no textbook or instructor.
When you just can't seem to be comfortable when meeting new people, something is wrong. Very wrong. The good news is it doesn't have to stay that way.While avoiding people, retreating from conversation, being a wallflower, or avoiding notice may feel like it's sparing you pain, the reality is such behaviors--all part of shyness--create more of the very problems that caused you to be shy in the first place.
Have you noticed that, when you occasionally move past the shyness barrier (for example, when "put on the spot?)", you feel awkward or uncomfortable? Perhaps you even flush hot and begin to expire, while your heart races. Those are signs of stress. And you have that stress because of subconscious expectations that produce a self-fulfilling prophecy of negative consequences--such as fear, uncertainty, and doubt. You have adapted to this by relying on avoidance behaviors.
This condition of relying on avoidance behaviors has a name. It's called "shyness." And it never makes your life better. It can make your life much less pleasant.
It's a maladaptive, self-defeating coping mechanism (behavior). The paradox here is the more you engage in shyness to avoid unpleasant or social situations or difficult choices, the more unpleasant such circumstances become if you are ever left with no choice.
People suffering from this condition are convinced that they are successfully managing things when the opposite is actually true. The compulsively shy person isn't avoiding problems, but is instead letting those problems gather strength and be far more difficult to handle.
But it's not just the outward manifestations of this particular issue that cause problems for you. Because the physical manifestation arises from an inner emotional problem, your compulsion exerts itself in subtle (and not so subtle) ways in your relationships. This undermines marriages, friendships, and careers in a multitude of ways. None of which you would suffer, if you overcame this compulsion.
Yet, you keep doing it. Why? This course will show you how to discover the answer. Your compulsion is a response, and if you understand how to uncover what's driving that response you can cure the compulsion.
Is your shyness keeping you from facing the world the way you need to?
Estimated completion time for the Behavior: Overcoming Your Shyness course: 15 one-hour sessions.
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You need to overcome the consequences of this self-defeating behavior. This Behavior: Overcoming Your Shyness will help you do exactly that.
What sort of consequences are we talking about? They may include:
People don't like you. If you feel isolated or disrespected, your self-defeating behavior is probably why--and you can change that.
You don't like yourself, because of your self-defeating behavior.
Your defense mechanism is to engage in your self-defeating behavior. This sets up a self-sustaining vicious cycle, in which you are currently trapped (this course teaches you how to use an appropriate response and break the cycle).
The dynamic of many relationships with others is that of a contest rather than one of cooperation. This means others fight you, one way or another.
Your response of your self-defeating behavior merely fuels this, creating a self-sustaining vicious cycle.
People often avoid any real discussion with you (on specific topics that trigger your self-defeating behavior), because they already know how it will go.
Others may give in to avoid triggering your self-defeating behavior, but later they find ways to disagree silently and/or undermine you (the are exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior, which is self-defeating for them).
You may have the appearance of "winning" or getting your way, but you actually lose it in terms of eventual outcome.
People who interact with you feel almost obligated to work against you. And they may not even realize it consciously. Your self-defeating behavior has tapped a primal self-defense mechanism in them.
Folks who could volunteer to help you, don't.
Your self-defeating behavior turns them off or you send involuntarily negative signals because you are relying on your ineffective self-defeating behavior instead of using effective coping skills. This course will show you how to use those skills.
How It Works
This Behavior: Overcoming Your Shyness course follows the same protocol used in short-term professional psychotherapy. The notable exception is this course is self-treatment. Whereas you could expect 4 or 5 one-hour sessions with a psychotherapist, the self-treatment approach will require more self-initiative. But you won't be paying $200 per hour for five hours this way, either.
As with any form of psychotherapy, your journey along the healing path may not end with this course. However, note these two facts about this kind of treatment:
The success rate is very high for people who make an honest effort to work through the therapy.
The therapy lays the groundwork for a stronger method of treatment, if needed.
This Behavior: Overcoming Your Shyness course is one of a series developed by Dr. Jay Prince, licensed psychotherapist. Dr. Prince passed away in 2001. A rapid cancer claimed him well before old age. During his lifetime, Dr. Prince treated many patients who needed to overcome a problem through psychotherapy. Dr. Prince also had several corporate clients, who came to him for solving dysfunctional situations within their companies.
Dr. Prince changed the lives of many of our customers, giving them new direction and new hope. In his private practice, Dr. Prince helped individuals overcome problems that kept them from leading the fulfilling lives they deserved. He also consulted to corporations, helping them to develop more humane, rewarding, and productive workplaces.
Working with Dr. Prince was a pleasure, knowing him was an honor. He wanted his courses priced so the average person could easily buy one and begin the journey to recovery.
The series of behavior courses is licensed exclusively to Mindconnection, LLC. His portion of the proceeds now go to his widow and children.
Going this route--the self-treatment via Dr. Prince's course--will save you money for three reasons:
You pay a one-time fee for the Behavior: Overcoming Your Shyness course, rather than $200 an hour for 4 to 6 hours
If this therapy solves your problem, that's your total cost.
If short-term therapy can't solve your problem, you have determined that without spending several hundred dollars..
I used to be terrified of being around other people, and especially of speaking in a group. I had a fear that I wouldn't be good enough, that people would criticize me, and I'd say or do something they didn't like. This fear has crippled me, my whole life.
This course has changed all that. Doing the exercises in this course helped me see why I was this way. It didn't show me a different strategy for dealing with those demons, but instead how to put them away. I also gained an understanding of properly assertive behavior. This didn't happen overnight, so the course isn't some kind of miracle cure. I really had to work at it, but the results prove the effort was worthwhile.