Perfectionism doesn't come from competence, nor does it produce it. Perfectionism actually undermines your competence, effectiveness, and career. Now you can overcome the insecurities that drive out good by requiring perfection. Don't let perfectionism ruin your life. This self-paced course requires no textbook or instructor.
When you can't accurately judge when something is good enough, you keep working at it to achieve perfection. One problem with this is the return on investment on that extra work is usually minimal and sometimes negative. Further, you incur opportunity costs because you are laboring over issues others just don't care about while not doing other things you could be doing. This condition is called "perfectionism." And it's a maladaptive, self-defeating, self-imperfecting behavior. The paradox here is the more you engage in perfectionism, the further from perfect you are.People suffering from this condition are convinced that they are successfully managing things when the opposite is actually true. A compulsively "perfect" person (one who insists on perfection) may appear to be in charge, but actually is not. This behavior may appear to be one of adhering to high standards (a good thing), but it forces upon you low standards of overall performance (a bad thing). It also makes a mess of your relationships.
Obviously, relationships suffer when a person is obsessive about anything. But it's not just the outward manifestations of this particular obsession that cause problems for you. Because the physical manifestation arises from an inner emotional problem, your compulsion exerts itself in subtle (and not so subtle) ways in your relationships. This undermines marriages, friendships, and careers in a multitude of ways. None of which you would suffer, if you overcame this compulsion.
Yet, you keep doing it. Why? This course will show you how to discover the answer. Your compulsion is a response, and if you understand how to uncover what's driving that response you can cure the compulsion.
Are you letting perfectionism get in the way of accomplishment?
Estimated completion time for the Behavior: Improving Upon Perfectionism course: 15 one-hour sessions.
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You need to overcome the consequences of this self-defeating behavior. This Behavior: Improving Upon Perfectionism will help you do exactly that.
What sort of consequences are we talking about? They may include:
People don't like you. If you feel isolated or disrespected, your self-defeating behavior is why.
You don't like yourself, because of your self-defeating behavior.
Your defense mechanism is to engage in your self-defeating behavior. This sets up a self-sustaining vicious cycle, in which you are currently trapped (this course teaches you how to use an appropriate response and break the cycle).
The dynamic of many relationships with others is that of a contest rather than one of cooperation. This means others fight you, one way or another.
Your response of your self-defeating behavior merely fuels this, creating a self-sustaining vicious cycle.
People often avoid any real discussion with you (on specific topics that trigger your self-defeating behavior), because they already know how it will go.
Others may give in to avoid triggering your self-defeating behavior, but later they find ways to disagree silently and/or undermine you (the are exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior, which is self-defeating for them).
You may have the appearance of "winning" or getting your way, but you actually lose it in terms of eventual outcome.
People who interact with you feel almost obligated to work against you. And they may not even realize it consciously. Your self-defeating behavior has tapped a primal self-defense mechanism in them.
Folks who could volunteer to help you, don't.
Your self-defeating behavior turns them off or you send involuntarily negative signals because you are relying on your ineffective self-defeating behavior instead of using effective coping skills. This course will show you how to use those skills.
How It Works
This Behavior: Improving Upon Perfectionism course follows the same protocol used in short-term professional psychotherapy. The notable exception is this course is self-treatment. Whereas you could expect 4 or 5 one-hour sessions with a psychotherapist, the self-treatment approach will take more time and require more self-initiative. But, you won't be paying $200 per hour for five hours this way, either.
As with any form of psychotherapy, your journey along the healing path may not end with this course. However, note these two facts about this kind of treatment:
The success rate is very high, for people who make an honest effort to work through the therapy.
The therapy lays the groundwork for a stronger method of treatment, if needed.
This Behavior: Improving Upon Perfectionism course is one of a series developed by Dr. Jay Prince, licensed psychotherapist. The series is licensed exclusively to Mindconnection. During his lifetime, Dr. Prince treated many patients who needed to overcome a problem through psychotherapy. Dr. Prince also had several corporate clients, who came to him for solving dysfunctional situations within their companies.
Dr. Jay Prince, the developer of our behavior courses, passed away in 2001. This was a rapid cancer that claimed him well before old age.
Dr. Prince changed the lives of many of our customers, giving them new direction and new hope. In his private practice, Dr. Prince helped individuals overcome problems that kept them from leading the fulfilling lives they deserved. He also consulted to corporations, helping them to develop more humane, rewarding, and productive workplaces.
Working with Dr. Prince was a pleasure, knowing him was an honor. He wanted his courses priced so the average person could easily buy one and begin the journey to recovery. His portion of the proceeds now go to his widow and children.
Going this route--the self-treatment via Dr. Prince's course--will save you money for three reasons:
You pay a one-time fee for the Behavior: Improving Upon Perfectionism course, rather than $200 an hour for 4 to 6 hours
If this therapy solves your problem, that's your total cost.
If short-term therapy can't solve your problem, you have determined that without spending several hundred dollars..
After years of being canned from one job after another because my bosses feel I take too long to get things done, I have finally been able to solve that problem.
A little over a year ago, I bought this course and worked through it with the help of three different friends (interestingly, I drove the first two into quitting on me).
We just had our second major layoff since I started this job less than a year ago, and I am still here. My boss says I do good work and he can count on me to meet deadlines. I used to miss deadlines because I was chasing "flaws" that didn't matter.
This course was worth every penny and more.