physical concerns are foundational--that is, unless your
body is healthy, you are going to have a hard row to hoe with any other
changes you need to make. You need proper diet, exercise, and rest.
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- Heart disease
- Illnesses in general
Simply put, you make yourself
sick--it doesn't just happen. Yes, there are some genetic problems that
creep up on you as you age. And yes, age itself takes a toll. But if you
work at being healthy, you'll drop your odds of ever getting sick to almost
zero. If you do get sick, don't go on a guilt trip--figure out what went
wrong and try to fix it.
Here's an analogy: If you lie down on a highway,
you stand a good chance of getting run over--this is how most people are
with their health.
If, however, you refuse to put yourself into compromising
conditions like this, then it takes something almost bizzarre to nail
The mental concerns
are also of paramount importance. After all, if you don't enjoy life,
what is the point in being healthy?
Let's not take this the way drug addicts
(e.g., tobacco users) do to justify destroying their health--that is intellectually
dishonest. You can enjoy life just fine without ruining your health (or
that of others).
A positive outlook is important,
but you can't just decide to be happy. You need develop skills
in communication and interpersonal relationships. You need to find activities
that are mentally challenging and spiritually meaningful.
And that last
part doesn't necessarily mean religious in nature--you are looking for
things that make you feel you have added something to humanity, that you
have made the world a better place. If that means reading stories to small
children, then fine. It never includes belittling others.
When you were younger, you
were like a babbling brook--running very fast but really accomplishing
much. And people had no qualms about stepping on you, peeing on you, etc.
As you get older, your water runs slower. Just remember, still water runs
deep. Imagine a deep lake, high in a mountain top.
What do people do at
such lakes? They love the pristine beauty, and respect the lake for what
it is. They drop their fishing lines in, and hope the lake will offer
to share from its depths. You want to be like that lake. Make yourself
into the kind of person you want to be--focus on activities that will
meet that end.
And you have the respect of both yourself and others for
who you are. Does television help you meet this goal? No? Then drop it.
Does getting angry over small things help you gain stature? No? Then find
ways to remind yourself of this.
The most important thing to
remember in this life: take important things seriously, but enjoy a good
laugh over those that are unimportant. That guy who cut you off in traffic?
It's his blood pressure, not yours, that will be a problem.
Tired of long
commutes? Get recorded books, so you can feed your mind and make good
use of the time.
you age, you accumulate battle scars. You deal with in-laws, kids who defy
you, and government agencies. Telemarketers drive you nuts. How can you
change these factors in your environment?
First, you must take care of
those interior changes. Once you have your own porch in order, you'll
be in a position to "clean house" with everyone else.
The second thing you must do
is analyze with exterior changes you are in a position to make. Certainly,
you can't change other people's personalities. But, you can stop engaging
in enabling behaviors.
For example, your in-laws drop
in uninvited on a regular basis. This really irritates you. And you've
told them so. Yet, when they drop in, you play the good host until they
Change your behavior, then they will change theirs. If
they welcome company at any time, they may not see why you don't. So,
Most people are creatures of habit. Thus, if your
by usually about supper time, make a point of being gone at that time.
But, you don't want to alienate them. So, call them and invite
them to have supper with you at a specified time on a specified day. Before
long, you'll have them trained.
You can approach most exterior
situations this way--as long as the gap in power is not too great. Always
try to accommodate the needs of the other party by offering to do so on
your terms and making it difficult or impossible for this to happen
on other terms.
Government agencies can drive
us nuts. The IRS, in particular, seems to exist for the sole purpose of
making life hell for citizens. Now, step back and look at the situation.
You are a citizen--and that gives you power you can use.
When the IRS
is unreasonable (they have been known to be reasonable on occasion), it
is not the IRS you are dealing with. It is an individual. Make the problem
Find something unreasonable in the person's approach--embellish
if you must--and write to that person asking to be reassigned to someone
else. Copy that letter to the the District Manager (you can use the same
address--just put District Manager on the top line). The person you are
dealing with will fear you. And then you have some bargaining power.
each subsequent letter to a growing chain of command--IRS Commissioner,
Senate Finance Committee, the Internet, and so on. Don't be a victim--make
victims. That is how you handle government agencies that treat you poorly.
By exercising the power vested in you as a citizen, you show these people
they cannot mistreat you. Do so calmly.
What about time? You can't
make more of it. However, you can make excellent use of the time you have.
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How most exterior things
affect you depends on how you strengthen the interior you. Acquire new
skills and knowledge on a regular basis. Try new things. Meet new people
by volunteering to be active in professional or other organizations. Give
Be confident that, because you have done these things, exterior
things will work in your favor as long as you address problems intelligently.