Mindconnection eNL, 2003-06-03
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In this issue:
- Brainpower tip
- Featured product: awesome sale
- Time tip
- Finance tip
- Security tip
- Career tip
- Health tip/Fitness tip
- Thought for the day
1. Brainpower tip
Perhaps you've been posed a question and
replied, "Let me sleep on that one." This is a very effective
technique. But, you don't necessarily need to sleep to think about it. To arrive
at a truly brilliant solution to a problem, all you really need to do is clear
your mind. You see, it's a crazy jumble in your brain when you're trying to
handle all the inputs and juggle the day's activities.
When faced with a difficult problem, such as
"Where in the @$&A did I leave my car keys?," all the anger in the
world won't help you find those keys.
The solution is very different, but it is
familiar to martial artists, yoga practitioners, and government highway crews.
Just sit quietly and do nothing.
Clear your mind. While you are in a panic
trying to get to work while your keys seem to have been abducted by aliens, this
may seem an unlikely approach for you to take. So, clear your mind by doing
something else. For example, get out a piece of paper and start listing the
things you intend to do at the office (that way, if you are late, you can show
this to your boss and say your dedication to bringing your work home caused you
to leave a bit late). While you are thinking about that list, the location of
your keys will pop into mind and you will be able to walk directly to them.
I've skirted around the real technique here,
by giving you a sample scenario. But, if you sit quietly and think about it, you will
understand the concept.
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3. Time tip
We all hate to get those telemarketer phone calls. The
Don't Call Lists help, but these rascals still find a way to bug you at
suppertime or just when you are about to sit on the toilet (which, I hope, are
not simultaneous events in your household).
Some of these folks just don't take no for an answer,
either. I have discovered the most effective technique is to say, "Hold a
moment, please." Then, set the phone down and walk away from it. The
telemarketer will sit there and fume until s/he finally hangs up. And you will
likely be added to the telemarketer's Don't Call List.
Now, that's a mean thing to do. But, it works.
The real trick to time management is not how much faster
you can file papers or how much multitasking you can do. The real trick is to
keep other people from wasting your time. In my time management seminars, I show
how to control those outside influences on your time.
Many people use a forest
and trees metaphor. Don't forget about termites and aphids--that's the trick to
being in control of your time. I say it's "the trick" because it's the
one area few of us ever address. You do not have to be mean with people, as in
the telemarketer example, to get folks to respect your time. In fact, if these
are folks you are dealing with regularly, you don't want to be mean. For the
most part, if you will just let folks know what your limits are ("I'd love
to talk, but I have too much to do right now"), they will respect both you
and your wishes.
If you know of any group that wants a speaker
on the subject of time management, please point them to www.mindconnection.com/main/timemanager.htm.
As my references tell people, I entertain and educate. If you hook me up with a
group whose members need better control of their time, that'll make you look
good and it'll help them find a highly-rated speaker who
has something valuable to present to them.
4. Finance tip
The other day, I got a letter in the mail
(which is where I get all my letters, coincidentally!). It claimed I could save
all kinds of money by enrolling in a program where this firm manages a process
that pays my mortgage twice a month. They split the payment in half, and pay
half of it early. All I have to do is pay them a few hundred, and I'll cut
thousands off my mortgage.
Here's an easier and cheaper way, assuming
you have autopay for your mortgage:
Get an online banking account.
Split your mortgage into four payments.
Note the week your normal autopay is set
Pay 1/4 each of the other weeks, so that
in any given month you
are making 3/4 of the payments and your autopay is picking up the fourth.
This gets you even more savings, and you
don't have to pay someone to do it! Just set a recurring monthly appointment for
each of those three weeks in your Outlook calendar. If you miss a day, it
doesn't matter--your normal payment will pick up any missing money. Make sure
you select the "Regular Payment" option.
This smoothes out your cashflow, costs you $0
extra cash each month, and pays off your interest much, much sooner.
If you don't have autopay, no problem. Just
do a recurring weekly payment and make sure you don't miss any payments--you'll
also need a note with your coupon saying you paid part of the tab earlier. I like
the autopay, because it will pay the unpaid portion each month. If I miss a week
for some reason, I don't have to worry about coming up short on a mortgage
payment. Do not attempt this with a paper check system--one missed delivery and
your credit rating gets nailed.
5. Security tip
If you have children, you need to observe
special security requirements. Here are some items I urge you to consider:
Ensure your child is with another child
whenever walking or bicycling anywhere. Most abductions are of a lone child.
Two stand a good chance. Make sure your child and your children's friends
know what to do, in case of adbuction. If you don't know, ask the police
department if an officer can visit your neighborhood to put on a training
class. These classes have saved the lives of a lot of kids. Ditto for the
fire department training, so do that as well.
Get a dog. No wimpy one, either. With the
proper training, you will have a loving and gentle animal that is also a
protective animal who will "adopt" your child. Train the dog
properly, so the dog can be in the yard or on the playground with the kid(s)--unattended.
If you don't like dogs, try a cat. A
well-cared for American short-hair or Siamese is a lethal weapon to anyone
who dares attack that cat's housemate.
Keep in mind that pets bring in dirt,
etc. That is just their way. Live with it. If you have severe pet allergies,
then you may not be able to have a pet.
Teach your child not to give out your
phone number or address, or say where s/he lives, except with your
Teach your child some self-defense. I had
a stepdaughter to whom I taught Kung Fu. She was attacked on the way home
from school, one night. Two of her attackers had broken arms. She was 11 at
the time. Forget Tae Kwon Do schools--they teach dancing. My point here is
to teach your child not to panic if grabbed or struck. Simply grabbing an
attacker's ear and sitting down is quite effective. You may be squeamish
about teaching your kid to hurt other people, but consider the alternative
if some wierdo grabs your kid. Find someone who teaches mean street
fighting, so your kid walks away.
Practice using bookbags, backpacks, and
other objects as weapons. Your child may save his/her best friend, if
prepared properly to do so. These efforts may sound frightening, but all
American children used to do atomic bomb drills and many do earthquake,
fire, and tornado drills today.
Teach your kid how to get help. Calling
the police isn't it. Identify adults along your child's normal
routes--places where your child can go for help. In my neighborhood, every
house is a safe haven for kids. All of the adults have agreed to help any
child in need. We have a crime watch block, so it's a cultural thing. Make
it a cultural thing in your area, too.
Enroll your kid in the NRA's Eddie Eagle
program. This teaches kids what to do if they see an firearm (Don't touch,
call an adult). If you live in a home unprotected by a firearm, you should
still put your kids through this course. Then, put yourself through firearms
training and purchase the hardware necessary for protecting your family.
Here's a special one. Keep an eye out for suspicious people. Many years
ago, my family and I were in temporary lodgings in a third-floor flat, with a
stairway down on the outside of the building.
Early one school morning, I set something outside, and noticed a guy hanging
around at ground level across the courtyard. When my stepdaughter, who was a
beautiful young lady, left for school, I gave her the usual goodbye hug at the
door--the guy was still there!
I waited until I heard her reach the bottom
of the steps, and I looked out the door. The guy had already moved all the way
across the courtyard and almost to our steps. By the time I got to the bottom of
the steps, he was gaining on her. By the time I got there, he was raising his
right arm. I grabbed his hair and yanked him back so hard his body feet came off
the ground and he landed squarely on his back. We reached "an
understanding," and I never saw him again. But after that, I walked both
kids to school (they left at separate times).
I'm not advocating that every parent needs to
cripple a child molester for life to fulfill parental duty--I hope none of you
have to do that. (But, if you are in that situation, may you have the ferocity
and strength of a tiger!)
My point here is being alert to conditions
can save your kid's life--or your own. Most predators stalk their victims, and
you can spot them in the stalking stage. An alert cat or dog will also know.
But, it is incumbent upon you to make sure you know. Trouble is usually
something you can see coming, if you look. And if you can see it, you can stop
6. Career tip
Are you frustrated with your lack of
recognition, promotion, or whatever at work? Make sure you don't whine or gripe
about it. Many people do this, and instead of being seen as an excellent worker,
they are seen as malcontents. This was a problem for me when I was on a W-2, so
I speak from experience!
A better approach is to make it easy for
folks to reward you. Performance will not speak for itself, and complaining when
other folks don't hear the unspoken message is not going to work.
Document what you do. Then, frame that in
terms of the company's goals and provide the documentation to your boss.
Give recognition to others. If you are
are recognition hog, don't expect to get recognition.
Let your boss know you want your next
review to be your best ever. Ask for specific suggestions. If your boss
doesn't have any, take that as a cue to look for a new job--your boss
doesn't feel comfortable investing in your career and that is probably
because you are on borrowed time at that company.
Get involved in an industry group or
trade group, and volunteer to do a project. Make sure you don't take
yourself too seriously in this project, and do make sure you treat others
well. If you have a success, share it with your boss. If you don't have a
success, look at why and you'll see what you need to change so you can do
better at your job.
7. Health tip/Fitness tip
I've been reading about a lot of health
scams, lately. I am amazed at the things people will actually believe! But,
considering the slick job of "marketing" that many of these hucksters
are doing, maybe I shouldn't be amazed.
An example of this heartless fraud is the
Atkins Diet. You can see an analysis of this and some other popular diets at
8. Thought for the Day
"We are the sum of our thoughts." What you feed
your mind has a lot to do with who you are. If you watch, for example, the
Clinton News Network (CNN) or read the New York Times, you are exposing yourself
to an enormous amount of inaccurate and outright wrong information. Both of
these "sources" toe the party line of the radical left and seldom get
their facts right. Yes, there are examples on the radical right, too. Question:
Why on earth would anyone deliberately choose to be brainwashed? Remember, you
are the sum of your thoughts and it is up to you to feed them a proper diet.
Wishing you the best,
The views expressed in this e-newsletter are generally not shared by criminals, zombies, or brainwashed individuals.
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