Mindconnection eNL, 2003-02-07
In this issue:
- Brainpower tip
- Career tip
- Security tip
- Finance tip
- Health tip
- Fitness tip
- Thought for the day
1. Brainpower tip
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2. Time management tip
Here's an excerpt from our career
success secrets course, on sale now.
Still waters run deep: know thyself
Anne Murray did a remake of Bridge Over
Troubled Water, which has to be one of my all-time favorite songs.
It’s very metaphysical, and the lyrics carry enormous meaning. The
song is basically one person’s promise to support another. In Murray’s
remake, there’s special emphasis on the chorus, "Still waters run
deep." You could write a book on what that means! Here’s one
aspect of that: I used to be passionate about my job—no matter what
the job was—but no more! Now, I am passionate about doing things that
are important to me. If others are pleased, that’s wonderful. But
pleasing others is not my first goal.
Here’s a quote from one of the managers whose
experiences underscore many of the concepts presented in this course:
"My employer has many positive attributes,
but management skill is not among them. I won’t go into details, but
suffice it to say they don’t think things through, they incur
unnecessary costs, and they seem to excel at demotivating people.
I am a Certified Manager, MBA, yada yada yada.
Thus, I find it frustrating to deal with bad management. I used to find
bad management stressful. I used to think I was supposed to be a team
player, and that it mattered that the team did well. That is not what
companies mean by "team player." Work is not like sports,
where you need to be aggressive to win. It is about making others feel
good about what they do, while contributing toward a common goal. It is
about letting others feel good about ill-planned work and poor
decisions. It is about letting go, if your team is not doing the right
things to make the goal. Others will come to your light—if you let it
shine instead of shining it.
This does not mean being silent or mediocre. It
means not babbling like a brook, and it means occupying a space,
function-wise, nobody else is occupying.
In the past, I would make it my mission to change
what was wrong, so we could do better as a team. I tried very hard not
to let anyone or anything fail. After a series of events at my present
job, I stopped caring about the job and began looking for another. What
happened was remarkable. With my new attitude, things started to happen.
Very positive things.
The waters began to get still and they began to
run deep. My bosses—3 levels up—now include me in strategic meetings
and consult me on things in a way unheard of for someone in my position.
They now respect me the way you might respect a deep, pristine lake. You
take care not to intrude on it, to ripple its surface, or to pee in it
the way you might a stream. You don’t try to rechannel it, or modify
it in any way. Instead, you cast your line and wait quietly for it to
offer up its fish. My ex-boss (only so because he got promoted) has been
quietly hinting at ways for me to do this. My ex boss has few intrinsic
talents, if any, yet manages to thrive. He’s an expert at letting
still waters run deep. I’m not sure if the same methods work in every
corporate culture, but I suspect the basic philosophy holds true
It means being content with your own place in the
world—the way a deep lake is—and expressing the confidence that
others want your services, too. Knowing that others recognize you for
the powerful, capable, and ethical person you are means you have no
reason to care about your position relative to them. Not caring on that
level creates a shift in power that makes your job about as secure as it’s
going to get. Even if you are incompetent, as my ex boss is, you can
promote the perception of competence just by letting still waters run
Still waters do run deep. Find your own bridges
over troubled water and cross them. Once you’ve done so, you’ll be
able to sail on silver wings. Now, you have the means to get those
wings. Happy sailing!
3. Security tip
One of our astute readers was kind enough to send in this quote:
“Security is mostly a superstition. It does
not exist in nature, nor do the children of men
as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than
outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing."
-- Helen Keller
4. Finance tip
You can save money in a lot of little ways
that add up. Here are some:
Turn off incandescent lights when not
using them. Example #1: I am amazed to see people brush their teeth with the
vanity mirror lights on in their bathroom. Unless you have some kind of
clamps holding your mouth open so wide that you can see where the brush is
making contact, it's not necessary to have any lights on. Example #2:
"I'm coming right back into this room in 5 minutes, so why turn the
light off?" Well, it is incredibly easy to find a light switch, so it
should not be a challenge to turn the light back on. If you're not using it,
why leave it on? Five minutes times the number of times this is done means
many hours of just throwing money away.
Stop "warming up" your car, if
you engage in this practice. In cold weather, many people let their cars
idle to "warm them up." Because cars must operate over a wide band
of power, they do not completely burn fuel at the low end. Sure, you'll
spare yourself that initial 20 seconds of a cold seat--but you'll invest 40
seconds going to and from the car to do it. Plus, you'll lower your fuel
economy by contaminating your combustion chambers and spark plugs with soot.
You'll also contaminate your motor oil. This is not an intelligent practice,
but it is a costly one. Caution: This does not mean you should start your
car and immediately go into "race mode." Drive at a moderate pace
(or slower, if traffic allows) to give the various lubricants a chance to
approach operating temperature.
Borrow movies from your local library,
rather than renting them from the video store. OK, maybe you want the latest
releases--so, do a mix of strategies and have the best of both worlds.
Don't buy pre-packaged processed foods
such as frozen dinners. In addition to being nutritional disasters (despite
the package claims), these carry a high cost per unit.
When someone comes to your door, don't
hold it open talking to them. You are letting out all the heated (winter) or
chilled (summer) air that you just paid for. Go outside, or invite the
person in. Afraid of an intrusion? The fact your door is already open means
you have already crossed that bridge.
When target practicing (this assumes you
take responsibility for preventing violent crimes against you, your family,
and any guests in your home by preparing for defense), look for a range that
gives you credit for returned shells.
Fuel up your car when it's cooler, rather
than when it's warmer. Because gasoline expands in heat, you'll actually get
more fuel per gallon this way.
5. Health tip
Don't hold grudges. Doing so creates a bad
hormonal environment within your body. For example, studies have shown that
people with an unresolved hate or anger problem have increased levels of
cortisol. They have a markedly higher incidence of diabetes, colon cancer, and
other illnesses. So, to stay healthy:
Think of a time when you have done
something offensive or hurtful. This helps remind you that the person you
are not forgiving is as human as you are.
Remember that holding a grudge doesn't
solve anything--it merely keeps the pain going.
Decide if you need to discuss the grudge
issue with the other person. You may want to vent your feelings, or maybe
just have an honest heart to heart explaining your feelings (without
attacking or blaming) and asking the person to help you overcome them. You
don't need to rationalize. Just say, "This may sound silly to another
person, but it's the way I feel. I want to let go of it, so I don't feel
this way toward you. Can you help me out?" The person may offer an
apology or even express some sentiment like, "That's not at all what I
meant. I had no idea this hurt your feelings."
If all else fails, just steel yourself to
6. Fitness tip
Do you want rock-hard abs by summer? Here is
a routine that will burn off fat fast. Just watch your calories and let this do
Week 1: Bleacher sprints. Visit a local
high school or stadium that has outside bleachers of any height. The higher,
the better. Walk up the bleachers, then walk down the steps. Then, run up
the bleachers as fast as you can and walk down the steps. Walking down the
steps is the only rest you get. Repeat this pattern over the next half hour.
This will burn more fat than running four four hours. Do this twice in the
same week, but at least two days apart. If your legs are sore on day two,
cut the amount of time back.
Week 2: Front squats. You should be able
to do 80% of your own body weight. Thus, if you weigh 160 pounds, you should
be doing 130 pounds (including the bar). This is true whether you are male
or female. If you cannot do this much, cut back on the weight. Do three
sets, in good form--make sure you use your abs to stabilize your trunk. You
will definitely feel the abs work if you are doing squats correctly. Stop
each set when your form starts to deteriorate, even if you don't do many
reps. The effect of this exercise is to cause hormonal changes that will
burn fat over the next three days and build muscle.
Week 3: Bleacher sprints. Do the same as
in Week 1, but only once during the week.
Week 4: Front squats again.
Repeat this pattern each month over the next
three months. The squats will build your abdominal muscles--they will even build
your arms because of the hormonal advantages (good for men and for women). If
you have noticeable weakness in Week 4, complete the exercises and do only a
single bleacher sprint the next week (but make up for it in Week 3 in the
If you have never done front squats
before, buy the book Body For Life so you can see how to do these without
blowing out a spinal disk. The technique is simple and safe for your back
and knees--but, you must do it right.
Before sprinting up the bleachers, check
your shoelaces. A slip can cost you your front teeth.
Do not eat an hour before doing these
exercises--unless you're into "shoe decoration."
Do eat a carbohydrate and protein within one hour after,
maximize lean muscle development.
Have water with you, when doing the
sprints--especially if you do them in hot weather.
You don't need a partner for either of
these exercises, but having one is an additional safety measure. Having a
cell-phone or letting someone know where you'll be and when to expect you
back is also helpful. You will be pushing yourself to the limits.
If you are a couch potato, don't do this
program (if you are a little chunky, that's not an excuse--you may still be
quite fit in cardiovascular terms). Test yourself by doing a very light
version of these and see how you feel the next day.
7. Thought for the Day
I told my sister for years that I was the favorite child.
Ever since she was little, I told her this. Every now and then, she'd relate
something special one of our parents did for her, and say, "Well, that just
proves I'm the favorite." I would always tell her something like,
"Nope. That still doesn't beat what they did for me. Try again." We
were both visiting my mom one year, and my sister asked my mom, "Can you
solve this argument? Is one of us your favorite?" I interrupted,
"Well, it's quite clear I am the favorite child here. I guess I should
finally tell you why that is so." I pointed out that nobody can beat the
Valentine's Day present I got from my mom and dad. You see, my sister's birthday
is on Valentine's Day. Is there a gift you can give someone--a gift that goes
beyond flowers or candy, or anything you can have wrapped or delivered? Each
day, you can give the gift of respect--that speaks volumes. You have a week--get
Wishing you the best,
The views expressed in this e-newsletter are generally not shared by criminals, zombies, or brainwashed individuals.
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