"The Perfectionist"

Learning to moderate perfectionism and improve cooperation from others in the process

Let's begin by reviewing the actual "Scenario" that drew you to this course. It's a description of what we'll call your "self-defeating pattern." Despite many attempts to temper your style of interacting with others, and even though people have told you that you make too "much ado about nothing," you persist in the behavior. As wild as that seems, the idea that people will keep repeating something they know is working against them is not unusual. In fact, everyone does it or has done it. Here's another look at the problem:

Yes, certain tasks and situations require extreme attention to detail and correctness - there just is no margin for error. But, in most circumstances such an approach is not only unwarranted but is counterproductive.

You are very clear about your high standards, and you need things to be right. "If it's not worth doing right, it's not worth doing." Your plans are well-tested and have proven successful many times before. It doesn’t make sense for you to let things slip just because others are impatient and act exasperated. Some people describe you as attentive to detail. You enjoy the feeling of completing work that is above reproach. You see that you are often inflexible and this irritates others. You usually don't mean anything by your tone or manner, and you don't mean to offend other people by insisting on high standards. In fact, you want everyone on your team to look good by your insisting on high standards.

It's not personal as far as you're concerned. You are committed to getting things right and you take the time and make the efforts required toward that end. Too often, however, others get the wrong idea about you. They sometimes see you as slow, pokey, and compulsively obsessed with things they don't see as important. They think you may fail to see that "good" is usually good enough, and "perfect" is just too costly to shoot for. Some have grown intimidated and don't share their ideas with you as readily, while others have become more aggressive and pushy with you. The result is the team isn't functioning the way you meant for it to. Your efforts are actually backfiring.

It's enough to make you squirm a bit, but that’s only because it rings true. The good news is you're about to learn how to make some serious changes in that pattern and to make those changes last.

This self-improvement process is exactly the same process you would go through in professional treatment, but you do it yourself (or with a friend) at a much lower cost. The  course consists of a guidance document you read as you work through the underlying issues of your problem.

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