Do you need to conquer aggressiveness? We have a course that can help, and it's based on talk therapy. In fact, it was developed by a licensed psychotherapist. The outline is below this extract.

Extract from page 13:

Let’s begin by reviewing the actual “Scenario” that drew you to this course. It’s a description of what we’ll call your “self-defeating pattern.” Despite many attempts to temper your style of interacting with others, and even though people have told you that you’re coming across too strongly, you persist in the behavior.

As wild as that seems, the idea that people will keep repeating something they know is working against them is not unusual. In fact, everyone does it or has done it.

Here’s another look at the problem:

You are very clear about what you want to do in your work, and you know what to do to meet your goals.

Your plans are well-tested and have proven successful many times before. It doesn’t make sense for you to wait for others to “get it” because time is wasted in the process and you already know what needs to be done. Some people describe you as a natural born leader.
You enjoy taking a directive role and would rather manage than be managed. You see that you are strong and forceful in the delivery of your message. You usually don’t mean anything by your tone or manner.

It’s not personal, as far as you’re concerned. You are interested in results and progress, and you design your efforts to avoid mishaps and catastrophes.

Too often, however, others get the wrong idea about you. They sometimes see you as pushy, aggressive, and overly competitive
They think you may have a tendency to become angry too quickly. Some have grown intimidated and don’t share their ideas with you as readily, while others have become more aggressive and pushy with you.

The result is the team isn’t functioning the way you meant for it to. Your efforts are actually backfiring.

It’s enough to make you squirm a bit, but that’s only because it rings true. The good news is you’re about to learn how to make some serious changes in that pattern and to make those changes last.
 

Course outline

Part I: The Psychological Underpinnings of Self-Defeating Behaviors

• Rule of the House

• Unmet Needs

• Modeling Maladaptive Behavior Patterns

The 4-Step Method for Letting Go of Old, Unwanted Behaviors

• Step 1: Observe

• Step 2: Look back

• Step 3: Talk back

• Step 4: Wrap up

Summary

Review Questions and Exercises

A. Assertiveness Training

• The aggressive response

• The passive response

• The assertive response

• Guidelines for assertive behavior

B. Improving Your Listening Skills

• Review

• Exercises

C. Institute an Exercise Program: some tips

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This course on modifying aggressiveness is part of the Scenarios for Success series.