"The Gossip"

Learning to moderate your gossiping and backbiting, and improve cooperation from others in the process

Let's begin by reviewing the actual "Scenario" that drew you to this course. It's a description of what we'll call your "self-defeating pattern." Despite many attempts to temper your style of interacting with others, and even though people have told you that your talking has hurt their feelings and you have damaged your relationships with others by gossiping, you persist in the behavior. As wild as that seems, the idea that people will keep repeating something they know is working against them is not unusual. In fact, everyone does it or has done it. Here's another look at the problem:

You know what you expect from others, and they often fail to meet your expectations. Your standards of behavior and performance are not unreasonable. It doesn’t make sense for you to sit silently by while others self-destruct or engage in substandard behavior. You know what is right, and you just wish someone would straighten out those who do not. You usually don't mean anything by your tone or manner. In fact, you feel good when comparing yourself to someone who doesn't meet your standards. If anything, it seems logical that others will think more highly of you and accept you more, if you tear someone else down. By pointing out the faults in others, it would seem your own faults would be minor by comparison - or even unnoticed.

It's not personal as far as you're concerned. You really don't mean any harm. Too often, however, others get the wrong idea about you. They sometimes see you as a busybody, and wish you'd mind your own business and quit talking bad about others. They think you may have a tendency to be negative about other people too quickly. They wonder if you are also saying bad things about them to their friends and associates. Some have grown intimidated and don't share their ideas with you as readily, while others simply avoid you. The result is the team isn't functioning the way you meant for it to. Your efforts to gain acceptance by rejecting others in absentia are actually backfiring.

It's enough to make you squirm a bit, but that's only because it rings true. The good news is you're about to learn how to make some serious changes in that pattern and to make those changes last.

This self-improvement process is exactly the same process you would go through in professional treatment, but you do it yourself (or with a friend) at a much lower cost. The  course consists of a guidance document you read as you work through the underlying issues of your problem.

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