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Behaviors Connection: Submissiveness
Stop Being a Doormat

Sumbissiveness/Passivity/Timidity. The doormat...Are you too submissive?

This course teaches you how to identify, then change, what it is about you that makes you come across as a doormat. You are often unclear about what you want to do in a team situation or in group settings, and but one thing you are very clear about is you don't wish to offend others. You go out of your way to accommodate others, but can't understand why they don't value that and many times don't value you as a person. It doesn't make sense for you to confront others--what if that makes them mad at you?

You feel it's best to diplomatically hint at the problem and trust them to understand the situation. Surely, they are smart enough to "get it." You value people and relationships, so you want to avoid risking either. Some people describe you as a very sweet person. Bu, others describe you as a doormat and that's definitely how some people treat you. You are very uncomfortable with confrontation or taking a directive role and would rather be managed than compete with someone else for the leadership role. You don't see a need to be strong and forceful in the delivery of your message. When people abuse your kindness, you take it personally.

You are less interested in results and progress than in getting along, but you find those who are keen on results and progress seem to despise you. It seems that, too often, others get the wrong idea about you. They sometimes see you as a pushover, and take your non-submissive, non-competitive nature as a sign of weakness. They think you defer to them out of inferiority, rather than a desire for peace. In fact, you find some people downright intimidating and would rather write them a letter or address the bad feelings in some other indirect way to avoid further intimidation. Even your language is passive, submissive, and structured to appease others. The result is the team isn't functioning the way you meant for it to, or your personal relationships have tanked. Your efforts are actually backfiring. It's enough to make you squirm a bit, but that's only because it rings true. The good news is, you're about to learn how to make some serious changes in that pattern and to make those changes last.

This course shows you how to change that, and get both your career and your social life back on track.

The good news is, you can learn how to make some serious and lasting changes in that pattern. In this course, you learn to moderate submissiveness and improve cooperation from others in the process. A licensed psychologist and business consultant takes you, step-by-step, through your self-improvement process.

This self-improvement process is exactly the same process you would go through in professional treatment, but you do it yourself (or with a friend) at a much lower cost. The  course consists of a guidance document you read as you work through the underlying issues of your problem.

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10 reasons to buy this course  and understand this material:

10. People walk on folks who invite them to do so; you are not a doormat.
9.   While submissiveness gives short-term stress relief, it increases stress in the long-term.
8.   The ability to effectively assert yourself to others improves your image and your career.
7.   This course is a lot quicker than sitting through a semester of college.
6.   This course focuses on what you really need to know, and tells that to you in a way you can understand.
5.   Submissiveness is a trap that isolates you from the respect of others; good relationships build a foundation.
4.   Future opportunities depend on your ability to express your needs and your views.
3.   Submissiveness is a waste of time and energy.
2.   By taking this course, you gain insight into specific principles of overcoming your problem.

and the number one reason to buy this course and learn this material...

1.   You owe it to yourself to be free of this problem.

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This course on modifying submissiveness is part of the Scenarios for Success series.