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What you need to be able to do is accurately see things as they are. That means you see the good, the bad, and all between. People aren't perfect. They have their faults, as well as their wonderful attributes and various positive virtues. Your negativity prevents you from enjoying the richness others can bring to your life.

Situations are rarely all good or all bad. Where there is bad in a situation, there is also opportunity, but your negativity blinds you to that.

Even very bad events usually have a silver lining. There is a cost to nearly every good thing that happens, but your negativity causes you to focus on the cost.

Viewing the world through this negativity is like holding a flashlight upside down. It makes you blind to what's right in front of you.

Negativity is an obsessive compulsion. And it's a maladaptive, self-defeating, self-degrading behavior. The paradox here is the more you engage in compulsive negativity, the more you draw negative consequences into your life.

People suffering from the negativity condition are convinced that they are successfully managing things, because they see problems that others don't seem to be aware of. But the opposite is actually true. A compulsively negative person may appear to be "in the know," but actually is not. This behavior blinds you to reality, and robs you of the ability to manage things in a manner that best serves your true interests.

Obviously, relationships suffer when a person is obsessive about anything. Your particular compulsion exerts itself in subtle (and not so subtle) ways in your relationships. This undermines marriages, friendships, and careers in a multitude of ways. None of which you would suffer, if you overcame this compulsion.

Yet, you keep doing it. Why? This course will show you how to discover the answer. Your compulsion is a response, and if you understand how to uncover what's driving that response you can cure the compulsion.

You can positively overcome your negativity!

The consequences of this self-defeating behavior may include the following:

• People don't like you. If you feel isolated or disrespected, your self-defeating behavior is why.
   
• You don't like yourself, because of your self-defeating behavior. But your defense mechanism is to engage in your self-defeating behavior. This sets up a self-sustaining vicious cycle, in which you are currently trapped (this course teaches you how to use an appropriate response and break the cycle).
   
• The dynamic of many relationships with others is that of a contest rather than one of cooperation. This means others fight you, one way or another. Your response of your self-defeating behavior merely fuels this, creating a self-sustaining vicious cycle.
   
• People often avoid any real discussion with you (on specific topics that trigger your self-defeating behavior), because they already know how it will go.
   
• Others may give in to avoid triggering your self-defeating behavior, but later they find ways to disagree silently and/or undermine you (the are exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior, which is self-defeating for them). So, you may have the appearance of "winning" or getting your way, but you actually lose it in terms of eventual outcome.
   
• People who interact with you feel almost obligated to work against you. And they may not even realize it consciously. Your self-defeating behavior has tapped a primal self-defense mechanism in them.
   
• Folks who could volunteer to help you, don't. Your self-defeating behavior turns them off or you send involuntarily negative signals because you are relying on your ineffective self-defeating behavior instead of using effective coping skills. This course will show you how to use those skills.