If others are intimidated or put off by your manner, you may feel more powerful. But in fact, you are in a position of weakness because others don't want to interact with you. This lowers your effectiveness in your career and personal relationships. Learn how to identify and eliminate the root cause of your aggressiveness. Let Dr. Prince show you how to overcome your aggressiveness.

When you can't accurately judge when you've crossed the line between properly taking care of your interests and attacking others, you can easily cross way over that line. When you do that, you engage in aggressive behavior. And it's a maladaptive, self-defeating, obnoxious, problem-producing behavior. The paradox here is the more you engage in aggressive behavior to get what you want, the more likely others will work to see that you don't get it or to at least ratchet up the cost of getting it.

People suffering from this condition are convinced that they are successfully managing things when the opposite is actually true. An aggressive person may appear to be in charge, but actually is not. Aggressive behavior often wins battles, but it always loses wars.

Your aggressive behavior undermines your career. It weakens or destroys your relationships with others. It robs you of the richness of life that could be yours. Because your aggressive behavior prevents you from getting what you really want, you feel frustrated. Your natural response is to apply more aggressive behavior. This leaves you in a vicious cycle. When others respond with their own maladaptive behaviors, you may be in several vicious cycles at once. All with the same solution: This course.

This course helps people who are overly aggressive to overcome the underlying driver of that behavior. Not only does this break the vicious cycle, but it eliminates your primary barrier to getting what you want out of life. And getting what you want in your relationship, finances, career, and other endeavors.

The consequences of this self-defeating behavior may include the following:

• People don't like you. If you feel isolated or disrespected, your self-defeating behavior is why.
   
• You don't like yourself, because of your self-defeating behavior. But your defense mechanism is to engage in your self-defeating behavior. This sets up a self-sustaining vicious cycle, in which you are currently trapped (this course teaches you how to use an appropriate response and break the cycle).
   
• The dynamic of many relationships with others is that of a contest rather than one of cooperation. This means others fight you, one way or another. Your response of your self-defeating behavior merely fuels this, creating a self-sustaining vicious cycle.
   
• People often avoid any real discussion with you (on specific topics that trigger your self-defeating behavior), because they already know how it will go.
   
• Others may give in to avoid triggering your self-defeating behavior, but later they find ways to disagree silently and/or undermine you (the are exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior, which is self-defeating for them). So, you may have the appearance of "winning" or getting your way, but you actually lose it in terms of eventual outcome.
   
• People who interact with you feel almost obligated to work against you. And they may not even realize it consciously. Your self-defeating behavior has tapped a primal self-defense mechanism in them.
   
• Folks who could volunteer to help you, don't. Your self-defeating behavior turns them off or you send involuntarily negative signals because you are relying on your ineffective self-defeating behavior instead of using effective coping skills. This course will show you how to use those skills.